Dating Friends: Is It Possible To Fall In Love And Be Lovers In The End?

May 7, 2009 by  
Filed under Relationships

The concept of dating friends comes in heaps of manifestations. You might go on a constant date with a group you call your circle of friends or you might be dating a long time buddy you have shared almost half of your life with. Which one are you? If you are the first one, then this is normal, you go out with them with a tag of being ‘just friends’ and no other reasons and intentions behind. If you are the second scenario then you probably fit the so called ‘dating friends’ set up.
Now, the question falls on, what will you do if the friendship no longer accepts the idea of just being friends? If you are in this situation right now, the best possible solution to take might be a careful deliberation of your feelings. Not because you have your friend for a long time makes him/her the perfect love prospect. Remember, your friend has a life of his/her own; he/she might make some gestures done solely for friendship yet, for you makes up another meaning. This becomes the major quandary; you might feel something for your friend but your friend might not be feeling the same way. Mutual attractions are important not unless you want the friendship to stay where it is and where it should be.
An open line of communication will set matters to rest and a possibility to unlock the feelings and true intention you have apart from friendship. Talk to your friend, say what you want to exclaim and see how this bold gesture can turn the events either to your advantage or to the friendship’s doom. There are a lot of factors to consider, friends do not always turn out to be good lovers and you should know about this fact. Then again, if you are earnest to make this work for the better, you should let your friend see that the more-than-friendship kind of relationship is not something you intend to feel. Remember, the ball is in your hands and what you do with it will dictate the outcome of your actions, outcome that no facts can justify and rationalize.
Once you ask your friend and the feeling turns out to be mutual, the floor is all yours for the taking. This is the best time to show your friend how the affirmation could change the whole course of your friendship. Since you will be dealing as lovers and not as friends anymore, things will not be the same as you have it then the first time you meet each other as friends. Dating your friend exclusively entails a lot of major considerations and oftentimes a change of your own lifestyle.
If you are all set for these major life changes, you have to come into the realization that you will either make or break it. Thus, a complete commitment and dedication is essential. Do not let go of the friendship you both built for many years, instead bring spice and color to the ones platonic relationship towards building a new found ardor and affection.

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