Winning Love Back – Costly and Common Mistakes You Should Avoid

October 26, 2010 by Patricia
Filed under How To Get An Ex Back

Winning Love Back

Winning love back can be quite difficult, especially if you’ve set yourself up for some of the most costly mistakes early on without realizing it. The reason for why you’d most likely make these mistakes is very simple as well – instinct. Because regardless of how helpful your instinct might be in sending you to the right directions and helping you take the right actions in the past, when it comes to breakups it will be useless. In fact, your instincts can be solely responsible for pushing your loved ones even further away making the process of reconciliation that much more difficult if you let it take over all of your actions.

Therefore you will need to be strong enough in order to convince yourself not to take any unnecessary or instinct mandated actions at this point – especially if you are hoping to get him back. To help you with this, here are some examples of instinct initiated actions that can prove to be quite costly mistakes:

● Disagreeing with the breakup – Your first instinct the moment you hear that the relationship is no longer would be to disagree. Of course, it’s understandable that when faced with the imminent end of what you and your boyfriend used to share, your first reaction would be to disagree and try to offer other possible courses of actions. But the reason as to why you should avoid this is because it makes you sound or even look desperate – something which you wouldn’t want your boyfriend to see if you’d really want to get him back. If it leaves you speechless or on the brink of tears, so be it, but do not disagree or offer anything more solutions as this might only strengthen his resolve and prove to him that the decision he made was the right one.
● Trying to contact him within days or maybe even just hours after the breakup – You will need to give him (and yourself) the time to think about what has happened and to calm down. Contacting him after a few hours or even days of the breakup asking about what went wrong or for the opportunity to meet again will only be met with resistance, making all your efforts futile and pushing him even further away just to get the ‘alone time’ he needs. So don’t call, text, send an email, leave him obvious message trails, or appear ‘accidentally where he works, lives, or hangs out.
● Failing to see the real reason – As quickly as you might want to get him back you will need to find out the real reason for the breakup first. Making any attempts without understanding this first can prove to be a fatal mistake as it may lead you down the same path again in the future. So try to look at the relationship closely first and establish where things went wrong. This will give you a better idea of how you will be able to get back with your ex as well.

These three are just the tip of the iceberg as there are so many that you will somewhat need to avoid for winning love back. But you don’t have to learn about all of them as well. With the right information, mindset and control of your emotions, you will be able to safely and successfully approach resolution and reconciliation in the future.